Getting Unstuck: Reclaiming our Wellbeing

This is a story about reclaiming our health and wellbeing – not through prescriptions, labels, or quick fixes, but by reconnecting to ourselves.  Many of our health and wellbeing outcomes aren’t just fate – they are shaped by how we lives, what we believe, and how we care for ourselves. 

“Stuck sick sore and sad” describes me in 2020.  I had been using my coping superpowers to keep going for a long time.  I was using my inner strength to endure, and I lost touch with who I was.   

The cost of endurance was high: chronic pain, emotional numbness, rising resentment, and the heavy burden of truths I couldn’t face.

I’d visit the doctor now and then – sometimes just to get a certificate that gave me permission to pause. 

But what was ailing me, what my body was complaining about, wasn’t something that my doctor could treat.  It was a lack of self-care, a lack of alignment with my values, and a lack of ability to tolerate some hard truths.

Why do so many of us wait until the breaking point comes, to come home to ourselves?  Sometimes established patterns are so strong that things need to break apart, before healing can begin.

Eventually, everything cracked open. Coping and avoidance stopped working—and I realised no one else could fix what was broken. That’s when I turned inward.

This journey taught me that healing begins with self-awareness and aligned action – principles I now share with the women I coach.

For the first time in years I began investing energy into my physical wellbeing.  My energy rose.  My husband and I separated, acknowledging what had been true for a long time.  I recognised that my current professional path had come to a natural end and put my energy into creating a new path.

Five years later, I am doing work I love, in a deeply nourishing love relationship, and feel happier in my middle-aged body than I ever have before. 

I still sometimes have moments when I don’t make choices that are in line with my wellbeing.  But I have a much stronger sense now of the connection between my actions, and their consequences.   

This experience is why I do the work I do today—supporting women to reconnect with themselves, align with their values, and take empowered steps toward wellbeing. Coaching isn’t about fixing people; it’s about helping them remember their strength and choose themselves.

If you’re feeling stuck or disconnected, begin with one gentle question: What truth have I been avoiding? Then ask: What act of self-care can I commit to today?
You don’t have to wait for a breaking point to come home to yourself. You can choose yourself now.